You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup

By Jen Gendron: Health & Wellness Coach

We have all heard this expression “You can’t pour from an empty cup” but have you ever stopped to reflect on a time when you where in this position where your cup had run dry and you were just trying to get through the day but feeling like you didn’t have the energy to do it? I sure have, and I didn’t realize just how far I have come along on my “refill” journey until just this past week!

2019 started off with quite a lot of chaos for me – one thing after another has led to a couple of pretty stressful months and I was not sorry to turn the page from February to March in hopes of a fresh start and a smoother month! But having said that, I have also had the chance to really reflect on how I am feeling and am pretty grateful for how well I have been able to get through the last few stressful weeks thanks in large part to all of the work I have put in over the last year to do just that – refill my cup!

A year ago, I was burned out, dealing with adrenal fatigue and completely physically drained and mentally exhausted. I had run out of gas and knew I needed to make some serious changes to get my health back on track. Not only was I feeling incredibly stressed, my brain was foggy, my body was tired, I was short tempered with everyone around me and I couldn’t even drag myself through a workout! I was trying to run two companies, balance my family responsibilities, work on my struggling marriage and just generally “hold it all together” and things were starting to unravel quickly! I knew I had to make some serious lifestyle changes if I was going to make things better and I started to take a serious look at how I could make this happen.

Over the last year, I have worked hard to change my routine and take on new habits that allow me to feel more centered and balanced. I had to work very hard to learn to say “no” to things that were draining me of energy. Some things were harder to give up than others but what I found was, after I started the process of “decluttering” myself and removing commitments from my very busy schedule, that it started to feel so darn good that it got easier and easier! I began to carve out “me” time for things that made me feel good and that isn’t always fluffy self-care practices (although those are in there too!!) but sometimes it is simple things like reading a book, spending a whole Sunday at home or getting outside in nature – these are things that totally fuel me – mind, body & soul!

As a total Type-A person, I know that “doing nothing” is not something that feels good for me but that my doing can be shifted towards the things that I do find relaxing and rejuvenating. That by saying “no” to things that don’t line up with my own personal goals & values, the world will not come to an end – maybe, just maybe someone else will step up and take on that “thing” that I felt obligated to do!

It has been a work in progress and will continue to be a work in progress for me to slow down as I am hard-wired for full steam ahead but looking back over the last two months and how good I feel despite being in period of total chaos, I realize just how far I have come and how important the changes I have made have been. I am feeling better physically and mentally, my marriage is stronger and I think I am a little more fun to be around than I was a year ago (at least I hope so anyway!!)

We all have it in us to make changes. They may not be easy or comfortable but there is no one out there that can make that decision for us – it needs to come from within. Are you ready to start filling up your cup? There is no better time than right now – you are worth it!

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